I’ve been thinking and observing a lot lately and realize that a lot of us don’t know how much we are worth and end up settling for a lot less than we deserve. To me it’s very sad. Therefore I wanted to write this post and hope that it can help someone. People often settle because they don’t think they deserve better. Remember people will treat you the way that you allow them to, and once you know your worth you would never settle for anything less
A romantic relationship is one of the biggest things that we tend to settle for, and it’s not okay. What would you want to settle for something that doesn’t make you happy? Do you feel pressured? Do you feel like you’re running out of time? Do you feel like you’re not good enough? If you answer yes to any of those questions, it’s probably time to reevaluate yourself and hopefully realize how good of an individual that you are and the many great things that you have to offer. A lot of us don’t like being single, we often feel lonely, we get bored, we feel unhappy and feel like dating someone will make things better. Don’t get me wrong, being happy in a relationship is such a wonderful feeling, but is that the case for a lot of us? No! Being single is not a disease, matter of fact it shows strength and patience because you are willing to wait for the right person. As a Christian I learn to pray so God can help me be a better person, I learn to pray about who I choose to date because I don’t want to be with someone that God doesn’t want me with. In life we make mistakes, and hopefully, those mistakes help us determine the things that we want and do not want from a partner. Those relationships that didn’t work out often help us to know more about ourselves. No one is perfect, so there’s no perfect couple but if God is the foundation of your relationship I firmly believe that it’ll be a strong one, and you wouldn’t end up with someone unless you two deserve each other.
Friendship is another type of relationship that we often settle for, we might not realize it, but the truth is, it happens quite often. We often feel like we need a lot of people in our life to feel good or happy. Not everyone that you call friend is your “friend”. Does that person have your best interest at heart? Is that person encouraging you to do the right thing? Does that person support you? Does that person tell you when you’re right or wrong? Is that person someone you can count on? If you answer a few No, then maybe you don’t need to surround yourself with that certain individual. As I get older I realize that a lot of people that I called “friends” did not deserve the title. The older I get, the less friend I have, and that’s perfectly fine. There’s a point in life where you don’t want to be surrounded by negativity. You need to be around genuine people who love, care and want the very best for you.
Another thing that we tend to settle for is our career. We often think that we can’t do certain things and settle for the bare minimum. Remember it’s all in your head and the sky is your limit, you can accomplish a lot more than you think. You can start small, but your goal should always be to grow and do more. Nothing in this life comes easy, and you have to work hard to get to where you want to be. Dream big, set SMART goals, do your research, make a plan, and take action. Will it be easy? Absolutely not. Failure is an opportunity for you to learn and a step to success, you can’t give up. Don’t envy someone for their success when you have the chance to do the same. Use those people as your inspiration and motivation, and they can even be your mentor and show you the ropes. There are a lot of great opportunities out there, don’t sell yourself short and underestimate your potentials.
“Ten years from now, make sure that you CHOSE your life and didn’t SETTLE for it” -Mandy Hale!
Until next time,